Portrait of an ISTJ - Introverted
Sensing Thinking Judging
(Introverted Sensing with Extraverted Thinking)
The Duty Fulfiller
As an ISTJ, your primary mode of living is
focused internally, where you take things in via your five senses in a literal,
concrete fashion. Your secondary mode is external, where you deal with things
rationally and logically.
ISTJs are quiet and reserved individuals who are interested in security and
peaceful living. They have a strongly-felt internal sense of duty, which lends
them a serious air and the motivation to follow through on tasks. Organized and
methodical in their approach, they can generally succeed at any task which they
undertake.
ISTJs are very loyal, faithful, and dependable. They place great importance
on honesty and integrity. They are "good citizens" who can be depended
on to do the right thing for their families and communities. While they
generally take things very seriously, they also usually have an offbeat sense of
humor and can be a lot of fun - especially at family or work-related gatherings.
ISTJs tend to believe in laws and traditions, and expect the same from
others. They're not comfortable with breaking laws or going against the rules.
If they are able to see a good reason for stepping outside of the established
mode of doing things, the ISTJ will support that effort. However, ISTJs more
often tend to believe that things should be done according to procedures and
plans. If an ISTJ has not developed their Intuitive side sufficiently, they may
become overly obsessed with structure, and insist on doing everything "by
the book".
The ISTJ is extremely dependable on following through with things which he or
she has promised. For this reason, they sometimes get more and more work piled
on them. Because the ISTJ has such a strong sense of duty, they may have a
difficult time saying "no" when they are given more work than they can
reasonably handle. For this reason, the ISTJ often works long hours, and may be
unwittingly taken advantage of.
The ISTJ will work for long periods of time and put tremendous amounts of
energy into doing any task which they see as important to fulfilling a goal.
However, they will resist putting energy into things which don't make sense to
them, or for which they can't see a practical application. They prefer to work
alone, but work well in teams when the situation demands it. They like to be
accountable for their actions, and enjoy being in positions of authority. The
ISTJ has little use for theory or abstract thinking, unless the practical
application is clear.
ISTJs have tremendous respect for facts. They hold a tremendous store of
facts within themselves, which they have gathered through their Sensing
preference. They may have difficulty understanding a theory or idea which is
different from their own perspective. However, if they are shown the importance
or relevance of the idea to someone who they respect or care about, the idea
becomes a fact, which the ISTJ will internalize and support. Once the ISTJ
supports a cause or idea, he or she will stop at no lengths to ensure that they
are doing their duty of giving support where support is needed.
The ISTJ is not naturally in tune with their own feelings and the feelings of
others. They may have difficulty picking up on emotional needs immediately, as
they are presented. Being perfectionists themselves, they have a tendency to
take other people's efforts for granted, like they take their own efforts for
granted. They need to remember to pat people on the back once in a while.
ISTJs are likely to be uncomfortable expressing affection and emotion to
others. However, their strong sense of duty and the ability to see what needs to
be done in any situation usually allows them to overcome their natural
reservations, and they are usually quite supporting and caring individuals with
the people that they love. Once the ISTJ realizes the emotional needs of those
who are close to them, they put forth effort to meet those needs.
The ISTJ is extremely faithful and loyal. Traditional and family-minded, they
will put forth great amounts of effort at making their homes and families
running smoothly. They are responsible parents, taking their parenting roles
seriously. They are usually good and generous providers to their families. They
care deeply about those close to them, although they usually are not comfortable
with expressing their love. The ISTJ is likely to express their affection
through actions, rather than through words.
ISTJs have an excellent ability to take any task and define it, organize it,
plan it, and implement it through to completion. They are very hard workers, who
do not allow obstacles to get in the way of performing their duties. They do not
usually give themselves enough credit for their achievements, seeing their
accomplishments simply as the natural fulfillment of their obligations.
ISTJs usually have a great sense of space and function, and artistic
appreciation. Their homes are likely to be tastefully furnished and immaculately
maintained. They are acutely aware of their senses, and want to be in
surroundings which fit their need for structure, order, and beauty.
Under stress, ISTJs may fall into "catastrophe mode", where they
see nothing but all of the possibilities of what could go wrong. They will
berate themselves for things which they should have done differently, or duties
which they failed to perform. They will lose their ability to see things calmly
and reasonably, and will depress themselves with their visions of doom.
In general, the ISTJ has a tremendous amount of potential. Capable, logical,
reasonable, and effective individuals with a deeply driven desire to promote
security and peaceful living, the ISTJ has what it takes to be highly effective
at achieving their chosen goals - whatever they may be.
ISTJ Relationships
The ISTJ's word is as good as gold, and they honor their commitments faithfully.
They believe that to do otherwise would be nothing less than a breach of honor
and trustworthiness. Consequently, they take their vows very seriously, and once
they have said "I do", that means they are bound to the relationship
until "death do us apart" or otherwise. ISTJs are driven to fulfill
their responsibilities and duties, and will do so with tireless effort. They
will do their best to meet the obligations presented by the different
relationship roles which they play during their lives, i.e. spouse, parent,
offspring, etc. They may have difficulty showing warmth, but they frequently
feel it in abundance, and most develop the ability to show it through sheer
effort. If nothing else, the ISTJ holds the gold medal of all the personality
types for Effort. They will put forth tremendous amounts of effort to accomplish
goals which are important to them. If healthy relationships are among these
goals, you can bet that the ISTJ will do everything that they can to foster and
maintain healthy relationships.
ISTJ Strengths
- Honor their commitments
- Take their relationship roles very seriously
- Usually able to communicate what's on their minds with precision
- Good listeners
- Extremely good (albeit conservative) with money
- Able to take constructive criticism well
- Able to tolerate conflict situations without emotional upheaval
- Able to dole out punishment or criticism when called for
ISTJ Weaknesses
- Tendency to believe that they're always right
- Tendency to get involved in "win-lose" conversations
- Not naturally in-tune with what others are feeling
- Their value for structure may seem rigid to others
- Not likely to give enough praise or affirmation to their loved ones
ISTJs as Lovers
"To love means to open ourselves to the negative as well as the
positive - to grief, sorrow, and disappointment as well as to joy, fulfillment,
and an intensity of consciousness we did not know was possible before." --
Rollo May
ISTJs are committed, loyal partners, who will put forth tremendous
amounts of effort into making their relationships work. Once they have made a
commitment to a relationship, they will stick with it until the end. They gladly
accept their duty towards fulfilling their role in the relationship. ISTJs are
generally willing and able to do anything which they have defined as a goal. So,
if maintaining a good relationship is important to the ISTJ, they are likely to
have a good relationship. If they have not added this goal to their internal
"list" of duties, they are likely to approach the relationship in
their "natural" state, which is extremely practical, traditional, and
structured.
Sexually, the ISTJ is likely to approach intimacy from a physical
perspective, rather than as a means of expressing love and affection. They
usually have a problem expressing their deepest feelings, even though they may
be very strongly felt. They will expect sex on a relatively scheduled basis, and
are likely to honor traditions regarding gender role-playing. Male ISTJs will
assert their perspective on their partners, while female ISTJs will tend to
follow along with what their male counterparts want (although they will be
uncomfortable with anything extremely out of the traditional norm).
ISTJs do not feel threatened by constructive criticism or conflict
situations. When faced with criticism, the ISTJ is likely to believe that their
point of view is correct. They have a tremendous amount of respect for Facts,
and base their opinions on known facts and logic. Consequently, they have a hard
time seeing the viability of viewpoints which don't match their own. When the
ISTJ gets involved in a disagreement over a point, they usually begin to attempt
to recruit the other person over to their own point of view, fully believing
that they are right, and that the other individual simply needs to understand
the facts of the situation. In such situations, the ISTJ may or may not be
right, but their confidence in their own "rightness" can shake the
confidence of others involved. This habit can quickly turn conversations into
"win-lose" situations, and can present a special problem in intimate
relationships. While they may inadvertently shake the confidence of their
colleagues with their "I'm right" approach, the same behavior may
cause serious issues within their intimate relationships. The ISTJ's constant
assertion of "rightness" may send a message to their mates that they
do not value their opinions. If the ISTJ has a mate with a strong Feeling
preference, they may inadvertently wreak havoc with their self-esteem, since
Feeling individuals are extremely sensitive to conflict and criticism, and are
especially vulnerable in their intimate relationships.
Since ISTJs make decisions using the Thinking function (rather than Feeling),
they are not naturally likely to consider their mates feelings and emotions in
daily living. This may be a problem if their mates have the Feeling preference,
since Feeling individuals usually expect a lot of positive affirmation, which
the ISTJ does not naturally communicate to them. The ISTJ needs to remember that
others may need to hear that they are loved and valued, even if the ISTJ doesn't
need to hear this themself.
ISTJs are generally very capable and efficient at most things which they
endeavor. Consequently, their mates are likely to hold a good amount of respect
for them. Daily concerns are likely to be well-provided for by the ISTJ. If
other concerns, such as emotional needs, are pointed out to the ISTJ as
important issues for their mates, the ISTJ will rise to the occasion and add the
task of addressing these needs to the internal "list" of duties. Since
the ISTJ is so willing to work hard at issues, and so tireless at performing
tasks which they feel should be done, the ISTJ generally makes a wonderful,
caring mate who is willing and able to promote a healthy, lasting relationship
which is also a partnership.
Although two well-developed individuals of any type can enjoy a healthy
relationship, the ISTJ's natural partner is the ESFP,
or the ESTP. ISTJ's dominant
function of Introverted Sensing is best matched with a partner whose personality
is dominated by Extraverted Sensing. How
did we arrive at this?
ISTJs as Parents
"You are the bows from which your children as living arrows are sent
forth...
Let your bending in the archer's hand be for gladness;
For even as He loves the arrow that flies,
so He loves also the bow that is stable." -- Kahlil Gibran
ISTJs are faithful and devoted parents who can be counted on to put forth
their very best efforts towards raising their children in positive, comfortable,
secure homes, and to promote their growth in such a way that they will become
secure adults who know their place in life within our society. Such is the
greatest goal of an ISTJ parent toward their child.
Along the path towards this goal, the ISTJ expects that their children honor
their traditional familial roles. As parents, they demand respect and authority
from their children. They willingly accept their parental role of provider and
guardian. Once the ISTJ becomes a parent, it becomes a "given" that
they will perform all of the duties associated with parenthood, and they will do
so without grudge or burden. However, they expect that their children give them
their due respect in return, and will have little patience with disrespectful
behavior.
When it comes to giving punishment or discipline, the ISTJ will be able to do
so when necessary without too much internal trauma. They see it as their duty to
teach their children when they've done wrong, and so will administer the
punishment in the name of the greater cause of doing their duty towards their
children. Not to imply that the ISTJ will enjoy disciplining their children,
they simply will put their duties before their personal feelings.
The ISTJ is likely to have a problem giving a lot of positive affirmation and
support to their children. Having very high expectations for their own behavior
and the behavior of others, the ISTJ often forgets to give praise when praise is
due. All children need positive support as they find their place in the world,
and this is especially true for children with the Feeling preference, who
benefit tremendously from positive affirmation, and suffer (sometimes
tremendously) in its void. The ISTJ who recognizes sensitivity in their child
should take special care to give them positive support and affirmation.
The ISTJ will create a consistent, secure environment for their children,
with definite roles and boundaries. Although this may at times create division
between the parent and child (especially during rebellious adolescence), it will
generally promote the child's growth into a secure adult. ISTJ parents will be
remembered and honored by their children for being good people who always tried
their best, and for putting the needs of their children above their own.
ISTJs as Friends
Although friendships do not rank highest in the ISTJ's list of important
relationships (whose duties and obligation to the Family rank above all else),
they do have value these relationships and put effort into enhancing and
maintaining them. The ISTJ is likely to choose to be around people who have
similar interests and perspectives to their own, and are likely to not have much
patience with people who are very different from themselves.
Although their usual mode of being is very serious-minded, ISTJs like to have
fun and let loose. They like being with Extraverts who are optimistic and
fun-minded, although the E's enthusiasm may eventually get on the ISTJ's nerves.
ISTJs can get along with most other types, but they especially form solid
connections with other Sensing Judgers. The ISTJ's respect for laws and
traditions may make them unable to relate well to Sensing Perceiving types,
although they admire their carefree ability to live for the moment. And
conversely, the Sensing Perceiving types may see the ISTJ's need for structure
as too conservative or scheduled for their tastes. ISTJs seem to get along well
with Intuitives, although they cannot really relate to some of the Intuitives
perspectives.
Careers for ISTJ Personality Types
Whether you're a young adult trying to find your place in the world, or a
not-so-young adult trying to find out if you're moving along the right path,
it's important to understand yourself and the personality traits which will
impact your likeliness to succeed or fail at various careers. It's equally
important to understand what is really important to you. When armed with an
understanding of your strengths and weaknesses, and an awareness of what you
truly value, you are in an excellent position to pick a career which you will
find rewarding.
ISTJs generally have the following traits:
- Value tradition, security, and peaceful living
- Will work long and hard to fulfill duties
- Can be depended on to follow through on tasks
- Loyal and faithful
- Stable, practical and down-to-earth
- Family-minded
- Dislike doing things which don't make sense to them
- Dislike abstract theory, unless they see the practical application
- Natural leaders
- Prefer to work alone, but work well in teams when necessary
- Extremely observant, they take in facts via their senses and store them
internally
- Vast, rich inner store of facts which they rely on to understand problems
which they encounter in their lives
- Profound respect for facts and concrete information
- Make decisions objectively, applying logic and rational thinking
- Dislike change, unless they are shown it's benefit in a concrete way
- Have strong opinions about the way things should be done
- Appreciate structured, orderly environments
- Have very high standards for their own behavior and the behavior of others
- Not naturally in-tune with other people's feelings
- Able to accomplish almost anything if they put their minds to it
- Community minded "good citizens"
ISTJs have one character trait which puts them at a definite advantage in
terms of career success - Perseverance. An ISTJ can do almost anything that they
have decided to do. However, there are areas in which they will function more
happily and naturally. An ISTJ will do best in a career in which they can use
their excellent organizational skills and their powers of concentration to
create order and structure. ISTJs seem to fit extremely well into the Management
and Executive layer of the corporate business world.
The following list of professions is built on our impressions of careers
which would be especially suitable for an ISTJ. It is meant to be a starting
place, rather than an exhaustive list. There are no guarantees that any or all
of the careers listed here would be appropriate for you, or that your best
career match is among those listed.
Possible Career Paths for the ISTJ:
- Business Executives, Administrators and Managers
- Accountants and Financial Officers
- Police and Detectives
- Judges
- Lawyers
- Medical Doctors / Dentists
- Computer Programmers, Systems Analysts, and Computer Specialists
- Military Leaders
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